Love & Relationships

Are there any truly authentic relationships?

If we continue to look for someone to fill a gap, make ourselves happy, or otherwise give us something that we can not give ourselves, we will continue to find unhappiness. The more expectations we have, the more disappointments we will discover.

"Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get - only with what you are expecting to give - which is everything."
Katharine Hepburn

That is not to say that we cannot expect a certain level of respect from someone, or that by not having expectations we are inviting or welcoming any form of abuse. On the contrary, by not having expectations and being one with what happens we simply invite the same love and compassion that we award the world.

Living your life waiting for someone to come along and make 'you' complete pales the magnificent life that you could and should be living! When you live in a complete state of acceptance, finding a meaningful relationship loses it's importance.

Life will give you whatever experience that is most helpful in this moment. Even if a relationship feels 'so right' and everything is 'perfect,' attachment to anything will cause anguish. All things are fleeting: relationships included.

A significant other can not give you happiness! They can trick you and temporarily give you am egoic sense of happiness, but when this person in question is out of the picture.. what are you left with?

Beware of anyone who declares 'I don't like playing games.' Although this person may truly believe that they in fact want to be genuinely open, by calling attention to 'game playing' they are in fact bring more energy to the very thing they oppose.

Cherish the good people in your life. Enjoy every moment you have with them because there will be a time when you will no longer be able to see them again!